My best friend is getting married next month. Of course, this now means that the entire universe revolves around her, everyone is a slave to her wants and needs and we all have to do exactly as she pleases or she is inclined to throw a monstrous temper tantrum, and, in the process, treat her friends and family members like garbage...oh, it's okay though, because she's a BRIDE!
She is having her rehearsal dinner on Thursday, October 8, at 6 PM at the church in Philadelphia, three days before the wedding itself. I am 200 miles north of the area, in State College, attending Penn State. I have a class and a work shift on Thursday afternoon and it is a three hour drive between the two cities. How am I supposed to attend the rehearsal?
I told her that I could try to take off that day to come, but I couldn't guarantee it, because I worked at an on-campus student dining hall, and their policy is that I have to find someone to work in my place or switch shifts with someone (I can't just "call off" without racking up warnings and thus eventually earning me termination). I had a few ideas of what to do, and listed them, and then said that there were some problems that could arise and that I wasn't guaranteed being able to make it. She responded with:
" You knew this wedding was coming up for two years now...you mean to tell me you didn't inform your employer about this?"
First: it hasn't been two years. She's only been engaged since February 2008.
Second: I've only been working at the dining hall for one week now. When you go to apply for a job, you don't list to the managers all the times you can't work. You suck up to them and say, "Yes sir. I'll work whenever you tell me if I'm not in class."
Third: I just found out the date of the rehearsal...ohhh...about seven hours ago? I had been planning to take off my night of work right before the wedding, but I had no idea about the rehearsal until this afternoon.
So what do I do? I could try to take off three different shifts from work and skip classes after making arrangements to get the make-up work later, but even then, people might not choose to work for me, or the transportation might not work out (I share a car with my boyfriend and guess what, it's not MY car, so I can't just use it whenever).
But I get the feeling that no matter what I do, if it doesn't work out and I won't be able to be a bridesmaid, she's going to be angry about the fact that I couldn't do it, overlooking the fact that I tried so, so hard to make it work in the process.She has told me I'm still invited as a guest, but if I go, I know all of the other bridesmaids as well as the bride, groom, and the parents, are going to be furious with me. What would be the point of me going if everyone around is feeling hostile toward me?
Just more reason for me to * LOATHE weddings. Someone in one of my classes yesterday said she wanted to be a wedding planner. I can't even imagine wanting to dedicate your life to what is, in my eyes, such a disgusting and non-rewarding profession.
I * hate weddings, I hate the me-me-me-it's-my-day-I-can-be-a-bitch-and-a-whore-if-I-want-to-Bridezilla-fucktard-mentality that young brides have today. It is disgusting. I don't want to risk it myself, therefore, if I ever consider getting married, I am marching my way up to the courthouse with my fiance and a few witnesses and having it done. You don't need flowers and cake and music to show you're in love, and anyone who thinks you do is destined for divorce anyway.
In fact, the ONE couple I know who has been married through justice of the peace is one of the few marriages I know of that is still actually in tact.
